I try to live a responsible life. Getting up early, physical exercise, reading a book in the morning, not procrastinating on sermon preparation… I am respectively responsible, I think. I even just returned from taking my family to Disney World, and I responsibly lost none of my three wanderful children! (It was the airline that irresponsibly lost our luggage!)
But while running the beaches of New Smyrna, Fl – I listened to and meditated upon a few sermons preached by Mark Driscoll at Mars Hill Church in Seattle. 1 Peter 3:1-6 – “Marriage and Women.” 1 Peter 3:7 – “Marriage and Men.” OK, so maybe Driscoll has a rep of being a theological bully, but I will say… most men, myself included, need to be kicked in the crotch by Word-expositing preachers. Driscoll did just that in his sermons (GO! Listen to them – http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/trial?page=2). Take notes, repent…
There were a myriad of bruise-inducing applications for any man or woman, and I could not help but pray for marriages and husbands and wives in our congregation – sometimes in anger at the extent of the “accepted” brokenness in the homes of the sons and daughters of God.
But what hit me most was the consideration of my not-so-responsible, gospel-shirking self. Jesus Christ is the perfect husband to his bride the church. True. He laid himself down in full, sacrificial, life-giving headship. True. He did not take away the weakness of his “weaker vessel” bride, but he did make himself RESPONSIBLE for her security, identity, health and care. He did not commit any of his bride’s sins – they are hers (mine are mine), but he did lay his life down on the cross as though he were RESPONSIBLE for her condemning sin. He took RESPONSIBILITY for the beauty and purity and magnanimous freedom of his bride!
Am I that kind responsible – as a husband and father? Ahem, well… I mow the lawn weekly, wash dishes most nights, read bed-time stories… BUT AM I THAT KIND OF A GOSPEL-LIVING, WIFE-HOLDING, CHILDREN-SECURING, CHRIST-EMBODYING RESPONSIBLE HUSBAND AND FATHER?
[silent, repentant, joyous, intentional consideration…]
Likewise, husbands live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. – 1 Peter 3:7
Responsible me? No, it is responsible me. Period. Responsible to hold and honor and humbly lay down my life for the sin and struggles and specific growth of Kori, Lina, Meggie and Nate. O Lord, in my weakness I take it. I want it. That responsibility will change me as much as it will change them, because its the gospel!!! Thank you Responsible Jesus for covering the irresponsible me.
O, did I mention I do our banking? I wrestle with the kids?
Shut up and quit shirking your responsibility.